It is impossible to constantly have happy and positive thoughts, it's natural as human beings that we feel many different emotions. Take a look at this Speak Easy Live Stream snippet to understand that Negative Automatic Thoughts (NATS) are normal and part of our every day thoughts. It may be scary to hear that 80% of our daily thoughts are negative however they are largely passing moments. Stay tuned to my next video where Eugene, Claire and I discussed the difficult topic on understanding when it's more than just negative thoughts. The content on this channel is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a replacement for professional mental health treatment. It is advised that you always seek help from a qualified mental health provider regarding any questions or concerns you have about your mental health. ♥ Follow Me ♥ ♥ Instagram → @HeyDr.V ♥ Facebook → @Hey.DrV

Thank you Kat & @pwrmums for a great opportunity to chat about my work (Integrated International School), motherhood and parenting in these COVID19 times. Hope you enjoy watching our chat, share your thoughts below if you'd like me to share more parenting tips! Don't forget to like & follow @pwrmums for more inspiring discussions, this channel has a bright future ahead! [Video credits: @pwrmums - www.pwrmums.com] The content on this channel is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a replacement for professional mental health treatment. It is advised that you always seek help from a qualified mental health provider regarding any questions or concerns you have about your mental health. ♥ Follow Me ♥ ♥ Instagram → @HeyDr.V ♥ Facebook → @Hey.DrV

We all have Negative Automatic Thoughts (NATS) and it's important to acknowledge these thoughts and then understand the process to how we can improve on them. In this Speak Easy Live Stream snippet, I asked Eugene and Claire to begin by sharing a personal NAT and then re-framing that thought to see it as a stepping stone towards positive thoughts and feelings. This action plan requires self-awareness and consistent practice so that you learn how to respond to your own NATS. Over time those loud, very negative thoughts will begin to fade because you know what to tell yourself, or how to use these to your own benefit, and how to overcome them. Watch until the end to find out my own personal NATS and my journey to dealing with them! The content on this channel is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a replacement for professional mental health treatment. It is advised that you always seek help from a qualified mental health provider regarding any questions or concerns you have about your mental health. ♥ Follow Me ♥ ♥ Instagram → @HeyDr.V ♥ Facebook → @Hey.DrV

It was a pleasure to be featured as a guest on Speak Easy Live Stream with host and comedian, Eugene Soh. Alongside his co-host, we discussed topics relating to mental health, specifically, Negative Automatic Thoughts (NATS). I'm sharing snippets from the live stream including the question that got the conversation going - How many thoughts do we have a day? It's a simple question but the answer may surprise you! Take a look to find out how NATS impact our daily lives and don't miss other live stream highlights that I'll be sharing over the next couple weeks. The content on this channel is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a replacement for professional mental health treatment. It is advised that you always seek help from a qualified mental health provider regarding any questions or concerns you have about your mental health. ♥ Follow Me ♥ ♥ Instagram → @HeyDr.V ♥ Facebook → @Hey.DrV

In my previous video, I discussed why a person may stay in a relationship even though they are ultimately unhappy. It's incredibly courageous to move on but remember every relationship is different. It's important to understand that tough decisions shouldn't solely be made on the reasons listed but will help to identify what is not working and whether or not to make a change. Let's begin with an obvious reason, you generally tend to feel unhappy or fatigued in the relationship and experience very few moments of joy with your significant other. If you are often left exhausted by constantly having to search for those brief times of happiness that can also mean the trust is lost in the relationship. Although a loss of trust tends to be linked to infidelity, it also means that you don't believe your partner will be there for you when you really need them. That brings us to reason number 3, the consistent feeling of loneliness. You may share a home with your partner but there is an atmosphere of distance and the little chats and cuddles that once brought you closer together are no longer shared. Which links to reason number 4, you no longer believe you are a priority in their life. Every relationship should have a healthy balance of support and independence. But when your partner's friends or work take precedence, it's bound to affect your emotional state and leave you questioning your self-worth. If you try to share this sentiment and it becomes an argument, then it's just another reason that it may be time to move on. When discussions quickly escalate to arguments, it means that the way you communicate to each other has deteriorated to an toxic state. The combination of the mentioned reasons ultimately leads to feelings of resentment. When you look at the person you first fell in love with is and only see sadness or disappointment then the relationship has unfortunately completely changed or broken down. If you find yourself in this difficult situation, talk to your friends and family or a mental-health professional to find that support and perhaps take the brave step of moving on. Please don't hesitate to comment below or send me a message if you'd like me to share more guidance on relationship matters. The content on this channel is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a replacement for professional mental health treatment. It is advised that you always seek help from a qualified mental health provider regarding any questions or concerns you have about your mental health. ♥ Follow Me ♥ ♥ Instagram → @HeyDr.V ♥ Facebook → @Hey.DrV

As parents, we are naturally proud of our children but an equally important question is, are they proud of themselves? In my video today, I'm sharing 2 practical tips that will make sure your kiddo learns the importance of self-pride! The first tip is teaching them how to build a foundation of self-advocacy and confidence instead of relying on others for external praise. The second tip is acknowledging their efforts and not just the final achievement. Share with them that their motivation to try something new or continuing to practice a skill is just as, if not more important than the final outcome. It's becoming a tougher world to grow up in so instilling our children with self-assurance and confidence will only encourage them to stand up for themselves and be proud of who they are. The content on this channel is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a replacement for professional mental health treatment. It is advised that you always seek help from a qualified mental health provider regarding any questions or concerns you have about your mental health. ♥ Follow Me ♥ ♥ Instagram → @HeyDr.V ♥ Facebook → @Hey.DrV

Why do we stay in relationships that just aren't working out or are causing unhappiness? There are numerous reasons but the most common ones are often linked to the fear of being alone. Did you know that 1 in 3 adults has admitted that they were afraid of ending up alone? It takes incredible courage to move on and we may think that staying is the easier option. In my video, I'm sharing 4 reasons on why we choose to stay with our significant other instead of choosing to leave. Number 1, when thinking of our partners, our brain releases a neurochemical called dopamine that produces feelings of happiness therefore we see the relationship from an emotional perspective rather than a logical view. Number 2, building a relationship takes time and we don't want to look back at the history and years together as a waste of our time and energy. That leads to Number 3, starting over again, it's always challenging to start from scratch! Especially after a long-term relationship, it can feel overwhelming to see yourself back at square one in the dating world. Which links to Number 4 that I first mentioned, the fear of ending up alone. We may think that we are too old to start over or we wouldn't find a better partner with the thought of being alone persuading us to stay where we are. If you are asking yourself this question right now of whether to stay or to go, don't miss my next video where I'll be discussing when it is time to finally let go of the relationship and move on. The content on this channel is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a replacement for professional mental health treatment. It is advised that you always seek help from a qualified mental health provider regarding any questions or concerns you have about your mental health. ♥ Follow Me ♥ ♥ Instagram → @HeyDr.V ♥ Facebook → @Hey.DrV

How many text messages do you send each and every day? And how many times have you misinterpreted a message? Well today, I'm sharing 1 great tip that will help dial down the text message drama! Although texting is a fast and easy way to communicate with your partner, it can often lead to unnecessary arguments. If you have a tendency to over-analyse every single message from your partner, it won't be healthy for you or your relationship in the long run. In life, we are always on the go, so understand that your partner may have be called into a meeting just as they were about to reply to you or was rushing to catch the train so sent you a short blunt reply. Instead of jumping to conclusions, take a step back and stop yourself from overthinking. And if you truly feel something isn't right then you can always give them a quick phone call. Let me know your thoughts in the comments below and if you have any relationship issues or topics that you'd like me to speak about! The content on this channel is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a replacement for professional mental health treatment. It is advised that you always seek help from a qualified mental health provider regarding any questions or concerns you have about your mental health. ♥ Follow Me ♥ ♥ Instagram → @HeyDr.V ♥ Facebook → @Hey.DrV